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What would you need to be like or become to find your soul mate? Nearly everyone has their dream list of things they would like in a partner. The list may sound like gorgeous, fun, good communicator, honest, committed, sexy, rich, and like the line from Mary Poppins – "practically perfect in every way".

Gandhi had it right at the world-wide level as well as in the world of intimate relationships. Who or what would you need to become to DESERVE and be EQUAL to your ideal partner? Like attracts like in some cases and in other cases, you attract what you believe you deserve. Both are important to consider when you want to find a boyfriend or find a girlfriend.

Assess your current situation. Here is where you look at your inner and outer resources for finding a partner. A professional life coach can help you look at your life from an outside perspective to help you discover what your strengths are.
Make your "ideal mate" list as clear and specific as you can. Don't just list off characteristics. Describe them in detail so that you get emotionally drawn in by your lavish descriptions. Which characteristics do YOU have? Which characteristics do you not have?
Make a list of the absolute-must-have-needs that you couldn't live without in a partner. When your list is complete look at your other relationships to determine if you feel you deserve receiving these absolute needs and if you gave these absolute needs to others. If you know your needs ahead of time, you will be able to make a good choice BEFORE you experience the emotional thrill of falling in love.
Be the change. If your needs and ideal characteristics do not match your strengths, you have some work to do before you are ready to find that perfect partner. If they do match fairly well, then keep your "ideal mate" list close at hand and review it often. Then take action to put yourself out there and show people who you truly are.